It is another day, as far as you are concerned another day of doom and gloom. You have an appointment to see your solicitor because that SOB (feel free to add your own version of appropriate name) has made some new demand. You don’t really want to go and waste more money. Let’s face it every time you talk to your lawyer (in person or on the phone), it is like flushing money down the toilet (no disrespect to lawyers). But you have no choice. The SOB is not coming to the party.
Chances are the dispute has been dragging on for months now, cost over teen thousand dollars in legal fees with no end in sight.
As far as lawyers are concerned it sounds like your typical family law dispute. To you no doubt it is a nightmare.
To keep your sanity during these rough times we suggest you start to write lists. You read right, lists. No, this is not about legal solutions, but strategies to keep your head above water and hopefully give you the strength to keep going until the two of you finally reach agreement or a judge hears your case and makes a decision.
Trouble is,, it is not unusual for acrimonious disputes to last years.
Some days are going to be easier than others.
Have a list of motivational quotes for the days you are feeling depressed.
List of top 5 motivational sayings:
- Reach for the stars so you may land upon the moon.
- Smile today for you do not know what tomorrow brings.
- A good laugh is sunshine in the house (William Makepeace Thackeray).
- You cannot have a positive life with a negative mind (Joyce Meyer).
- Delete the negative; accentuate the positive ( Donna Karan).
Make several copies of this list and pin in to visible parts of the house so you can be reminded of the sayings as you mope about at home. Feel free to use this list, make your own or even add to it. Simply rewriting positive sayings will help you feel better already.
You might also want to write a list of things you want to do when the dispute between the two of you is over. For example:
- Go on a trip around the world.
- Learn to draw.
- Take up a new hobby [insert something specific you want to do].
- Visit the theatre.
- Go camping for a weekend.
These are just suggestions and can be tailored to what you want to do. Don’t be afraid to be creative. Creativity fosters positivity. And this all about you taking charge of your life, sweeping negativity out the door to embrace the change and look forward to a new life with a positive attitude.
The thing about lists is, they calm the mind. Writing also tends to focus ones mind on a specific task. You may find you start writing down other things, like all the good things in your life you could be greatful for.
And of course there are many more lists you can do.
Daily to do list:
- Have cup of coffee.
- Take dog for a walk.
- Vacuum the house.
- Check the mail box.
- Write summary of relationship highlights for lawyer.
Hopefully you get the idea. As soon as we put pen to paper the writing juices start to flow and words flow like a river. Go with it. Write many lists. Remember an active mind is better than one who constantly dwells on the past.
Your dispute with your ex will one day be over.
You can help it end faster by taking charge and organizing your thoughts. Banish negativity and embrace positivity.
Remember you are in charge of your life.
Feeling a little blue? Add a little yello to your day and watch the blue move away.