Do you feel the weight of the world on your shoulders? Don’t worry. Your feelings are not surprising; bearing in mind your relationship has come to an end.
Relationship breakdowns are emotionally traumatic times. You will feel like you have stepped onto a giant roller coaster and no one has told you how to get off.
We want you to remember though, this will end one day (hopefully soon). You will move on. Your life will get better.
To help you on your journey of healing and self-discovery it might pay to remember some of Mother Theresa’s motivational quotes. Mother Theresa became known for her humanitarian work in India where she helped the poor and starving.
- ‘Let us always meet each other with a smile, for the smile is the beginning of love’.
Have you noticed how you instantly feel better when someone smiles at you? Try and smile more often. Smile at yourself in the mirror; smile at the stranger you walk past in the street and the shopkeeper at the grocery store. If you smile more you will start to feel better.
- ‘The future is so much in the hands of God, I find it much more easy to accept today because yesterday is gone and tomorrow has not come and I have only today.’
It does not matter if you are a believer or not. What matters is that you should not waste your time and energy on living in the past. You will not be able to move on with your life if you do not let go off the past. Enjoy today. Focus your energy on today. Make the most of it and start to grow.
- ‘We fear the future because we are wasting the today.’
After separation it can be daunting to face the future on your own. You long for the security of someone to hold your hand, share life’s adventures with you. But that someone is gone. Stop thinking about tomorrow. Take each day as it comes. You will surprise yourself how strong you really are. By focusing on today you will grow and prosper and before you know it, you will have met someone else, someone who appreciates you and wants to be with you.
- ‘Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do, but how much love we put in the action that we do.’
Approaching tasks with love makes those tasks more enjoyable. There will be tasks you will not approach with love and it is those things you should eliminate from your life. Don’t hang onto anger. Let it go. Give in to love. Look around you, there are still plenty of people in your life who love you and support you. Return their love and support by giving back with love and support.
- ‘Do ordinary things with extraordinary love.’
No matter how bad things seem there are always people worse off than us. Find someone needy to give them a hand. Make a donation, volunteer at your local op shop or soup kitchen. Giving, when we ourselves feel down, is a great gift and will help you feel better.
- ‘When you don’t have anything, then you have everything.’
In today’s world we seem obsessed with possessions. The more we have the better we will feel. It is however the complete opposite. If you have no material possession but a life filled with love, you will be rich. Don’t mourn the possessions you have lost, embrace what love you have left (family, friends).
- If you judge people, you have not time to love them.’
After the break down of your relationship it can be tempting to run down your ex and everyone who associates with them, their family, friends and so on. The negativity spirals out of control and drags you down.
Stop judging anyone and everyone. Accept people are all different. Eliminate contract with negative people and surround yourself with those who love and accept you for what you are.
During the emotional time of separation it can be difficult to remember what is important in life, to love and be loved. Look around, there are still plenty of people who love and respect you. Spend time with them and give back the love they give you.
It won’t be long before your separation is but a memory and you will have moved on.